A relationship is created between two people, and if one of you changes then the quality of the relationship changes. I help you to recognise and take responsibility for the part you have played in getting things to where they are now and then work with you to make them better.
I draw on a range of techniques including conscious listening, transactional analysis, non violent communication, Focussed Mindfulness and image work to help you to gain confidence, communicate clearly and truly listen to your partner to bring about a change in how you interact. The work is of benefit in your intimate relationships – present and future – and is equally relevant to your social and professional life.
If it comes to it, I understand the different routes to legal separation and divorce, and I am able to explain the options open to you and suggest the route that might be best for you and your family.
Divorce can be stressful; you may experience a wide range of emotions as you come to terms with events, with the change in your circumstances and your expectations for the future. It can also be challenging to support other family members who are finding it a difficult time.
- Offer you unbiased, non-judgemental support and guidance.
- Help you to minimise the impact of the separation on your children and help you to keep relationships with others positive.
- Help you to keep calm and able to communicate effectively.
- Give you confidence, keep your thoughts clear, get your voice heard and support you in reaching a settlement you will be happy with.
- Help you to envisage and work towards a positive future.
- Support you as you move forward confidently knowing that you did the best you could for yourself and your family.
You may first want to explore whether divorce or separation is the best route for you to take. Where there is commitment, a relationship can often be changed for the better even when just one person alters their approach to it. I can coach you to do this if it something you would like to try before embarking on formal separation or divorce.
I can support you through the entire process. Initially, I will meet with you to understand your position and identify any areas of concern, help you to come to terms with what has happened and prepare yourself and your children for the changes ahead.
If necessary I can work with you to clarify what is most important to you as you look forward and help you to keep this in mind so you can work towards the best result for all parties.
I can advise on the different approaches to divorce and separation and help you to choose the best route for you. I work with a number of lawyers and mediators who are keen to keep divorce cases out of court. Instead, they are committed to supporting and advising their clients as they work towards an amicable and fair agreement about how to divide their assets and co-operatively care for their children after divorce. There is more information about this here:
I can remain on hand to counsel you, where needed, at all stages of the process so you can remain strong and focussed on your priorities and also help you to resolve any conflicts in a positive way.
In summary, as a divorce coach I am:
Part of a team that works, where needed, with lawyers, financial advisers and other specialists to support you through your divorce.
Flexible, providing whatever help you are needing at the time.
Part of a network of skilled specialists and I can refer you on for extra support, for instance to a psychotherapist, child specialist or money coach where needed.
Knowledgeable about the various routes to divorce.
Able to give you tools to help you remain calm, to feel empowered and to communicate effectively.
Here to keep you clear about the future you want.
I am able to support both parties as they work through divorce or separation, but where necessary I can bring in a second coach to work with your partner. Conversations shared in our sessions will always remain confidential* unless you expressly agree that it will be beneficial to share some information with someone else.
*The exception is where I believe that you or someone else is at risk of harm when I am legally bound to pass this information on to the relevant authority.